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May 22, 2015
The Importance of Visioning
Take a few minutes and imagine what your children will be like as adults. Some parents have immediate thoughts of terror and doom, but instead, look at the good qualities your children have and imagine how those qualities will benefit them later in life. Then share those observations with your children.
Visioning is an important part of parenting, in fact, we see it as one of the five components necessary in a good strategy for growth. Children need to know what character quality to work on, and they need to know why that quality will help them in life. Visioning adds a positive dimension to our discipline that looks beyond the day-to-day to say, “This quality that you’re working on is going to make you successful.” Statements like, “With that kind of thoughtfulness you’re going to make a great husband.” Or “Your thoroughness is going to make you a valuable employee someday.” When parents learn to encourage their children this way, they look past the daily grind of parenting to what their children are becoming. Why is the quality useful in life? What do I see now that will bring success as my child grows?
We’ve probably all heard the statement that children believe what we say about them. If a parent tells a child he’ll never amount to anything, he’s likely to incorporate that into his belief about himself and it may end up becoming true. We can take that same principle and teach our children to see the good in themselves, the specific ways that God has blessed them.
Interestingly enough, giving our children a positive vision for the future encourages them to live up to it now. The qualities we focus on end up being the ones they see in themselves and develop.
Adding visioning to your parenting plan gives children hope and direction. It says, “You’re going to make it.” “I believe in you.” It’s a way to honor our children. Like giving them a gift that will last a lifetime, a hopeful way of looking at themselves and their life.
After all God does this for us on a regular basis. Verses like Philippians 1:6 give us hope to live now to the fullest. “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
This parenting tip comes from the book, Motivate Your Child ACTION PLAN by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.