Posts from 2014 (Page 5)

• • • • • Parenting Tip February 19, 2014 Obey First and Then We’ll Talk About It When parents give an instruction but children don’t want to comply or it’s not convenient for them, sometimes they need to learn to “obey first and then we’ll talk about it.” This emphasizes obedience. If little Brian has pulled a chair over to the counter and is climbing onto it, you may say, “Brian, we don’t climb on chairs.”“But I was just…”“No,…

• • • • • Parenting Tip February 11, 2014 Ending Every Discipline Time Positively After a consequence or a conflict time, it’s important to have a Positive Conclusion. It’s usually best to talk about what the child did wrong, why it was wrong, and help the child develop a plan for next time. After that discussion, end the whole discipline by saying something like, “Okay, go ahead and try again.” An affirming statement at the end says, “I believe…

• • • • • Parenting Tip January 24, 2014 Teach Children What to Do Next Time Do you feel like some days you have to discipline kids for the same things over and over again? The child who has a problem hitting, interrupting, or just being annoying to others may need a lot of correction. It’s these problems that are great candidates for a Positive Conclusion. Each time the negative behavior takes place, have the child take a short…

• • • • • Parenting Tip January 15, 2014 Teaching “Why” Helps Children For the Future We encourage parents to ask their children a series of questions after every discipline experience. One of those questions is,  “Why was that wrong?” Some parents like this question because it appears to be a set-up for a parental lecture. Resist this urge. You may have a desire to lecture but your child may quickly turn you off. Furthermore some children answer this…

• • • • • Parenting Tip January 10, 2014 Ending the Discipline Time Positively Disciplining children day-to-day often leaves tension in the parent/child relationship. Children may feel angry, guilty, or fearful and their parents can be left with lingering frustration. One helpful solution for both parent and child is to have a debriefing after every discipline time. We call it a Positive Conclusion. During the Positive Conclusion, talk about what went wrong, why it was wrong, and what the…

• • • • • Parenting Tip December 26, 2013 A Lesson in Honor Honor changes kids, but sometimes it’s hard to communicate its importance to children. One way that you can teach honor is by modeling it as you extend hospitality to others. We live in a compartmentalized society. Many of the entertainment options today decrease interaction between people and leave them feeling lonely. It’s an honor to be invited over for dinner or for an evening of games…

• • • • • Parenting Tip December 20, 2013 A Time to Practice Saying Thank You Gratefulness is an important life quality because it helps us to be thankful for what we have instead of complaining about what we don’t have. Gratefulness is a lifestyle but it starts by saying “Thank you” to others who bless us. Begin now to prepare your children for receiving gifts. Talk about the importance of the giver, not just the gift. Teach children…